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I REALLY DON'T WANT ANOTHER BABY Ten years ago, when my daughter was two, I remarried. He is a fantastic husband and stepfather and I adore him. He was adamant that he didn't want children of his own but has now changed his mind. He is 37 and I am 40. The truth is I don't want another baby, I really don't. I love my 12-year-old daughter totally but if I hadn't got pregnant, I probably would not have chosen to have children. Also, I had a traumatic labour, followed by severe postnatal depression. My husband's six siblings all have children, and recently both his parents were diagnosed with cancer. I think he wants to be able to give them a grandchild before they die. We are just beginning to enjoy the freedom of my daughter becoming a bit more independent. Why has he waited so long? Should I be less selfish and try to have a baby for my husband's sake? This is always one of the most difficult dilemmas as it's not easy to compromise. You can't have a baby purely for your husband's sake. I get the impression you haven't told him how you truly feel. Maybe his sudden desire for a child is an understandable emotional response to the potential death of one or both of his parents. Is that a reality? So many cancers are treatable nowadays. They do have lots of other grandchildren. Perhaps his biological clock has suddenly started kicking in. If he really wants a baby, would he be prepared or able to do a complete role reversal and be the full- time parent? Would he want a baby if he knew you didn't? Please get some professional help with the British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy (bacp.co.uk).
HE BROKE MY HEART, AND I CAN'T MOVE ON I have been married for 18 years and have a loving husband, wonderful children and a great social life. But I had an affair with a long-standing friend that ended ten months ago and I am miserable. He made me feel like a million dollars and said I was the love of his life. But in the end he took someone else out when we had arranged to meet up. He broke my heart and all I can think about is him. No one else has any idea that I had an affair. I know my ex-lover is unreliable, as he has had several other affairs, and he is with someone else now. It is all my fault.See the full content of this document
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